nguyenn
12-08-2006, 11:25 PM
With reference to the article " Where has my Viet bride gone?" article by the Newpaper, May 28 2006.
As a Vietnamese PR in Singapore with contacts in the matchmaking business over in Vietnam, I'll just like to highlights some very "grey areas" and cultural practices which the general public are not aware of:-
1) Strict parents of GOOD Vietnamese village girls will never allow their daughters to be send overseas for matchmaking. The only way you can marry their daughters is to go over to their village and get permission from them. The prospective groom will have to pass a medical checkup and go through their customary marrige ceremony.
2) Vietnamese village girls CANNOT speak mandarin or english. The husbands will have to pay for the tuition fee of their wives after marriage.
3) Good Vietnamese village girls do not have the financial ablity to pay for their passports and airfares to Singapore.
Any smart Singaporean should ask themselves the following questions before they decide to purchase one from the local agency office:
1) Are these really good village girls? Is'nt traditional matchmaking really means asking your prospective wife parent for her hand in marriage? Will a GOOD girl allow you consumate the marriage without you first going through a customary marriage with her?
2) Where do they learn how to speak chinese or english? From working in town and coming into contacts with foreigners? What kind of works were they working in? Proper or not proper?
3) Did she borrow the money to make the her passport and purchase the air ticket? Would you like to marry someone who is in debt?
What you read and know from the newspaper is only the tip of the iceberg! Why 2 vietnamese friends just go missing after several months of marriage and from the same matchmaking agency? Quote from the matchmaker - 'The agency's obligation ends once the man marries the woman he chooses'. Is there some kind of agreement between the brides and matchmker? Is the brides obligation also ends after a certain numbers of month.
Hear it from the horse (vietnamese) mouth! The only way to get a GOOD Vietnamese bride is - go to Vietnam and get one !!! Understand ???
As a Vietnamese PR in Singapore with contacts in the matchmaking business over in Vietnam, I'll just like to highlights some very "grey areas" and cultural practices which the general public are not aware of:-
1) Strict parents of GOOD Vietnamese village girls will never allow their daughters to be send overseas for matchmaking. The only way you can marry their daughters is to go over to their village and get permission from them. The prospective groom will have to pass a medical checkup and go through their customary marrige ceremony.
2) Vietnamese village girls CANNOT speak mandarin or english. The husbands will have to pay for the tuition fee of their wives after marriage.
3) Good Vietnamese village girls do not have the financial ablity to pay for their passports and airfares to Singapore.
Any smart Singaporean should ask themselves the following questions before they decide to purchase one from the local agency office:
1) Are these really good village girls? Is'nt traditional matchmaking really means asking your prospective wife parent for her hand in marriage? Will a GOOD girl allow you consumate the marriage without you first going through a customary marriage with her?
2) Where do they learn how to speak chinese or english? From working in town and coming into contacts with foreigners? What kind of works were they working in? Proper or not proper?
3) Did she borrow the money to make the her passport and purchase the air ticket? Would you like to marry someone who is in debt?
What you read and know from the newspaper is only the tip of the iceberg! Why 2 vietnamese friends just go missing after several months of marriage and from the same matchmaking agency? Quote from the matchmaker - 'The agency's obligation ends once the man marries the woman he chooses'. Is there some kind of agreement between the brides and matchmker? Is the brides obligation also ends after a certain numbers of month.
Hear it from the horse (vietnamese) mouth! The only way to get a GOOD Vietnamese bride is - go to Vietnam and get one !!! Understand ???