Help! My Daughter has Gone Astray!

From_75557 · #1 29-09-2006, 12:14 PM

Mr Lim LH, 52, a property agent, is worried sick. His daughter Eileen(pictured left, without studs) has run away from home since 24 September after he raised his voice at her for being rude. She had been playing computer games and he had reminded her to eat, and when she was rude to him, he shouted at her. He went into the kitchen after that and when he came out, she was already gone. She had left home just a few days before on 16 September, but had returned home on 18 September after her father lodged a report with the police, only to leave once again.

Mr Lim has been so upset he has not been at work since then, and has been going around game centres and places she frequents to look for her. She has not attended school the past five days, and has her PSLE examinations to take next week.

According to him, Eileen got to know a girl, Vivian, through a classmate, and had started frequenting game centres since then, with funds given to her by Vivian.

Mr Lim had gone to Vivian's home on 27 September to look for his daughter and saw her schoolbag in Vivian's home, but saw no sign of the two girls. He called Vivian on her mobile phone, and she promised to bring his daughter home but till now, Eileen has yet to return. Eileen's teachers had also been trying to contact her and Vivian, who is a school drop-out, but to no avail. Mr Lim has also made a police report again to try and get her home.

So Eileen, where are you?

What do you think? How can we help kids who have gone astray and run away from home? Tell us.

kor_1969 · #2 29-09-2006, 12:23 PM

another Game Addict?

TingTing · #3 29-09-2006, 12:27 PM

I wonder why kids these days behave this way.. Run away from home, engage in pre-marital sex, rude to parents, know how to use emotional blackmail, some even have violent tendencies.... Sigh... What's this world coming to..... *tsk tsk tsk*

etteNNaej · #4 29-09-2006, 12:34 PM

perhaps. sometimes. it's due to teh fact that parents have too little time for the kids? and i realise parents hardly talk to their kids. and i mean TALK. like.. those heart to heart talks, understand them, or even their frens. Coz usually i feel like parents wil just condemn the frens, saying that they are "not good enough", "bad company", "don't let me see u mixing with them again or i'll take away your hp" etc. this will cause their kids to get more irritated. more rebellious even. all the more they won't listen. try to communicate and understand. not condemn and threaten.

TingTing · #5 29-09-2006, 12:38 PM

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Originally Posted by etteNNaej

perhaps. sometimes. it's due to teh fact that parents have too little time for the kids? and i realise parents hardly talk to their kids. and i mean TALK. like.. those heart to heart talks, understand them, or even their frens. Coz usually i feel like parents wil just condemn the frens, saying that they are "not good enough", "bad company", "don't let me see u mixing with them again or i'll take away your hp" etc. this will cause their kids to get more irritated. more rebellious even. all the more they won't listen. try to communicate and understand. not condemn and threaten.

Hmm... Maybe I was stupid when I was young lah.... If my folks don't like me hanging out with this bunch of friends, I won't do that behind their backs and I'll just obey. I'm the kind who'll go home straight after school and seldom hang out with friends unless it's school-work related. Come to think of it hor... I think I'd be labelled as an autistic kid by today's standards sia...

missinginaction · #6 29-09-2006, 12:40 PM

i used to be like that.
i run away from home all the time.
the longest was abt a mth.
i think that parents should talk to their child.
not sit down with that "i'm-yr-father/mother-u-must-listen-to-me" look talk!
the more they wanted to talk, the more i dun feel like listening.
parents should try to talk to their child in a more casual way.
for example, talk to em while waiting for yr food to be serve or when driving in car.
my mums and i talks every now and den.
sometimes i'd jus chill in her room b4 bed.
conversations doesnt hv to be really long.
jus make yr child feel that u care. talk to em abt their frens, yr frens, yr experience in live.
my mum tells me stories abt those guys whu tries to woo her when she was young. i love it!
oh, also try not to embraress yr child when someone's ard

SlumberZ · #7 29-09-2006, 12:44 PM

Moment of impulse.. Haix. They never spare a thought for themselves. How are they gonna survive outside on their own. No financial backing.

For me is.. Parents scold me during my primary school days ask me to leave home, i never do that. I have consideration for my survival. =)

etteNNaej · #8 29-09-2006, 12:47 PM

surprisingly, i've never run away from home before, couldn't find the courage to do so. i guess i was rather anti-social then... not many frens. nowhere to go.

missinginaction · #9 29-09-2006, 12:51 PM

i also fought with my mum and dad. i once hurt my dad's hand.
i dunno wad happened. the next day i saw him, he's got a bandage on his hand

but my parents are crazy at tat time.
they got so mad that they grab me and jus chop off my hair!!
but its all my fault. think i caused em becoming like that.
i also heard that my dad had some heart prob cos of me

i didnt even knw my mum got cancer at that time! :_(
but thank god, its was jus the starting stage!
they are both healthy and leading their life happily

p/s: when i come to think of it, its really funny. i feel so stupid. lol.
but dun u guys think kids nowadays are really really rude. i mean they're jus in their primary!

Impossible · #10 29-09-2006, 12:52 PM

Ya lor, kids tend to be more drama nowadays, watched too much TV drama i supposed and they developed (physially) super fast too while their brains are stil..."so small". Come to think of it, i am worried about my niece who is in Pri 5now. I should start buying more toys to occupy her time before she turns wild like those MIA gal.